Entangled in the Culmination Narrative
What to do with the seductive idea that it's all going to come together somehow, someday?
Postpartum Writing
How to Be a Seahorse Dad
When your baby has a meltdown on the C train at rush hour and everyone stares – never fear. No one knows you birthed this little one you can't soothe. Let them imagine it's mommy's day off. Let them slot you into that well-trodden role
What Does It Mean to Squander?
I’ve been wondering if there is a productivity book for those of us who spend all of our time chestfeeding, or, if away from our baby at work, stuck in the lactation room whenever we can find a moment between meetings.
It turns out everything I thought I knew
Ambivalence, Irreversibility, and Leaning Into the Wonky Parts
I gave birth eleven weeks ago, which means I now have the culturally fraught experience of living in a postpartum body, even if my postpartum body happens to be that of a man. And my body exists in a particular way in relation to my baby—I wake in the
Catch the Letdown
They say a manual pump will help me catch the letdown—
the milk that seeps from the other breast when my baby suckles,
milk I catch now in a blue cloth I drape over his body,
then toss in the wash.
They say if I catch the letdown, maybe I