Don't Get Invited Into Narratives That Don't Serve You
As a pregnant trans man, I'm learning to find the stories that serve me, and to let go of the rest.
Essays
Trans Ancestor Frank Woodhull and the Stories That Come From Necessity
How do I make sure to separate the stories that I tell from necessity—for advocacy reasons, for example—from those that feel most personal, most true, most alive?
Being Trans at Naked Night Taught Me About Belonging
I went to the naked party to see people’s dicks, not hear people’s stories. But sometimes things don’t turn out the way you’d expect.
I can’t say what I was expecting when I saw that a gay bar I’d been to a few times
There Are No Rules for a Pregnant Trans Body
On learning to be a pregnant man in public.
Against the Linear Narrative of Pregnancy
The shapes we give our stories matter.
Someone in Some Future Time Will Think of Us
You may forget but
Let me tell you
this: someone in
some future time
will think of us.
— Sappho
I found this quote today in Paul Monette’s essay collection, Last Watch of the Night, after asking him what I should write about and opening to a random page. He
On Being a Real Writer
I suppose I spent so long worrying about being a real man, or even a real trans man, that I haven’t found much time to worry about being a real writer.
I am a man who doesn’t have a cock. In fact, I am a man who has